Appearances are Deceiving

A week ago, in the wee hours after Rick’s death.  We all left the General Hospital at the same time and drove back to Beamsville.  I was following Carole’s and my dad’s cars onto the Red Hill expressway and I thought. “We can’t just be driving home!  Not after that!”

It seemed absurd that we could possibly go back home after something like that happened.  There should be a place you go to when you have suffered a loss like that.  Isn’t there a program where experts supervise your walk through the stages of grief.  Did we forget something? I couldn’t believe that i was supposed to go home and go to bed.

Part of the shock of losing a loved one is the intrusion of our eternal natures on our temporary physical existence. When the reality of our temporary physical existence imposes on our schedules we are dumbfounded.  How could Rick possibly be gone?  We’ve got church in the morning!

Perhaps this is one of God’s gifts to us when we are grieving, a gift unlooked for.  We are reminded that we like, “the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire.”(Matt. 6:30) “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” (2 Cor 4: 18)

C.S. Lewis famously said, “You don’t have a Soul; You are a soul, you have a body.”  The basic nature of our existence is spiritual, not physical.  This life is the exception to our eternal existence in heaven.

One thought on “Appearances are Deceiving

  1. I remember feeling like that after Gram and Grandad each passed away. I was running around doing errands, and I said “It is like the rest of the word doesn’t know that something is wrong.” I was in this survival mode, just trying to do what I had to do, and others were wandering around like the world wasn’t a different place than the day before.


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